The saying of the besema tribe in south sumatera says ” Nak iluk mpung gi tunggal, dendamkah gawe ye iluk saje”_* essentially the meaning of that saying is that; It is very easy to mention *forgive* but it is very difficult to apply it totally in the soul and heart of the person who has been hurt. Especially from those who has lost his beloved person. The symbol of forgiving is usually by shaking hand and hugging one each other. In the culture of some Muslims there is also a mutual hugging followed by touching each cheek left and right.
The question is; is that symbol enough?. Can we believe that forgiving is coming sincerity. Three things can be applied in forgiving, those three things are; willing to be sincere, trying to forget the case which is done by the man who ask apologize, keeping friendship in between of them and also interact one each other. The author thinks by measuring from himself it is certainly difficult. Moreover if we accept the apology from the perpetrator who has caused the loss of the family’s life. Loss of livelihood source and the family back bone. But as a religious person, certainly forgiving is a necessity even though it is very difficult to forget.
Reconciliation of the Victims with Perpetrators
It is not easy to bring ex-terrorist prisoner together with the families of the victims or the victims of terrorists. From the side of the perpetrator who had finished serving the punishment such from the jail, they think they had been free. If they had repented and aware of their mistakes in the past, then there is no power can touch them anymore. Unless he rejoined the radical group where he had joined preveously. If he does not repent the contrary for the victim especially for those who had become widows then will suffering as the family backbone is very tired. For disabled person or with limitations often create despair. For the orphans living like losing a grip.
All is a long suffering that they will experience for the rest of their lives. While Reconciliation, forgiving is the right step of being filled and initiated by the state through National Counter Terrorism Agency or BNPT. Because reconciliation activities will be covered by a lot of mass media – at least the perpetrators who have not had time to realize their deed will see how regret and repentance of the actions they have done in the past are important. How apologizing is not an insult. We can also imagine how the world will see an ex-terrorist in Indonesia embracing people who have suffered because of their deeds. It is hard for both parties. But the author believes this is the best solution to prevent feelings of resentment, hurt the victims and cultivate the attitude of rejection of radicalism and terrorism including by ex-terrorist.
Will efective for the prevention of terrorism going forward? The author thinks yes-it will be very efective. Why? I think all the world’s eyes are currently seeing how the soft approach done by Indonesia turns out to be very stirring up the feelings of radical groups. What are the activities of rehabilitation, reeducation, resocialization, development program of national insight and entrepreneurship training has been implemented simultaneously throughout Indonesia. What elements of education, socio-culture, youth and women and religious leaders shaded by the FKPT is a forum which have been able to prevent terrorism significantly in the last 5 years.
This is tentatively different from the dialogue community program in theological dialogue debate which enjoys only 69% of success which requires that the approach program last only until 2005 in Yemen. Or the program of advisory committees *_lajnaj-al-musnashahah_* or PRAC (prevention, rehabilitation and after care) in Saudi Arabia which was still not able to suppress the growing interest of the Arabs join the ISIS. Or in Singapore by establishing a religious Rehabilitation Group or known as the PRG(Program Rehabilitasi Grup). Program was not fully able to suppress the growing radicalism.
On other occasions, it may only exist and occur in Indonesia where the perpetrators of terrorist activities, treated with honorable. In the case of the picking up of the Indonesian ex-ISIS *Dwijoko Wiwoho* (the Director of one-stop service) the Authority of Batam together with 18 persons his relatives picked up by the National Counter Terrorist Agency from Iraq, and then taken back to Indonesia to explore their motive. The conception of human rights and the protection of our citizens is very important. We are not stigm orientation. In-depth filtering and investigation proved capable of filtering out who the inviting motivator, who funded it, and who was indoctrinating the group should enter the iron barriers or jail. While mothers and children with different motivations are repatriated to their home in a healthy psychological condition and provided with sufficient social and religious awareness.
In many countries such cases will certainly bring the consequences of revoking citizenship or revocation of citizenship and passports for ex-person who have joined such ISIS. Initiations such as exploiting ex-terrorist prisoners to develop and reduce radicalism through education such as pesantren alhidayah (islamic boarding school) and peace-cyrcle foundation in Medan and Lamongan, where former perpetrators of Fai and the family of Bali bombers became agents that reduce the idea of local radicalism may also occur only in Indonesia. Coupled with dialogue and the habit of building intense personal communication by special detachement 88 and NCTA personnel to ex senior radical group leaders (such as Amir Markaziah JI) is another key success. The state can absorb the idiological aspirations that developed among the senior radical figures.
Reconciliation is hard? Yes very hard. Why? First; the victim will directly meet the person who has caused them to suffer. Behavioral details, former terrorist movements will give different impression and assessment to the victim. Second; although the victims have been willing to accept the risks and impacts, have to return again willing for the sake of meeting.
Third; the victim must throw away feelings of resentment and hurt.
Fourth; should shake hands, hug and say I have forgiven you. Perhaps the tears must fall into the lap of the terrorist who has made him miserable. But no matter how hard, the country should start. The state must be able to show the attitude of mutual forgiveness, understanding, tolerance and act as a catalyst, mediator and motivator for the creation of a peace. The state will not allow terrorism to flourish in this country.
May this be useful